Possible solution to Mild Anger Issues
I had a thought about anger. Putting aside deeper issues that need to be dealt with, perhaps I can make a suggestion?
I was feeling antsy today. Have a couple of changes I am going through. Nothing major, just the nerves kicking in. Of course, someone said something to me today that was not right. After a few seconds to mull the response, I gave a good response that dispelled that or at least mitigated it.
For some reason, that got me thinking about times I defused a situation by a proper and not an angry response. I’ve certainly responded in anger sometimes. So, what was the difference maker, especially during stressful situations? I’ve got to say, I don’t know.
I came to a conclusion, why not focus on the times you reacted correctly? Would that help in the future?
In college, I worked at UPS as a package loader. This supervisor was constantly on my back, cussing me out. I’d argue back with him, say a few choice words. So finally, one prescient day, I responded, ‘You know I’m doing your job and running the belt, right?’ The look of shock and realization on his face told me everything. He left me alone after that.
Another supervisor told me I’d go nowhere in the company when I refused to come into work when I had a final. “Mr. _____, you are not even in my future plans.” Another shocked face. Yes, I remember the schmuck’s name.
Create and provide a change of perspective for both you and the other party.
I usually ignore people that say derogatory comments or just plain old, stupid comments. I do this as I know if I try to deal with them, I will come across as angry, or that I think the effort to be futile. Am I doing the right thing? Not sure either way.
I read somewhere, wish I could remember where. Look into their eyes as blankly as possible and say nothing…..ha ha.
Sometimes, or quite often, you just have to let things go.
Know who you are and remind yourself consistently of this will help.
Watching a lot of anger filled shows do not help, either. Note to self.
I’ll publish this as a draft as my mind went blank.
